Women Gambling-When dreams become nightmares

Women Gambling-When dreams become nightmares

Postby lindah » Sun Jul 13, 2008 2:52 am

Women and Problem Gambling: When dreams become nightmares

I used to feel good about myself. I had a successful career. I was good with money, honest and dependable. All that has changed. The roulette wheel has spun my world into chaos. I hate lying to my boss, cheating the bank, scrambling to pay bills, living in fear. – Kate

It started as fun, buying a few scratch tickets. I felt lucky when I won $1000. I thought it was an easy way to get extra money to treat the kids. Soon I was buying tickets every day. I was spending the little money we had. The kids want to know why we never have any food or fun anymore. – Rosa

After my husband died, friends took me to the casino for a night out. I loved the slots, the noise, the special treatment. It helped me forget my grief and fill the lonely hours. I started going on my own, and moved from the quarter to the dollar slots. How can I tell my kids I’ve lost all the money their father worked so hard to save? I’m so ashamed. I’m glad my husband isn’t here to see what I’ve done. – Gladys

These women have run into trouble with gambling. Like many people who begin gambling for money, fun or time out from everyday worries, they have become trapped. Winning can create an urge to play more and create hopes of even bigger wins. Losing leads to desperate efforts to win back the money. The spiral is downward as the gambler moves through cycles of despair and hope. Over time, the debts mount as selfesteem plummets. The dreams become nightmares.
Women and Problem Gambling

With increased acceptance of gambling, and easy access to it, women have been swept into the gambling current. For some, the high of the action, or the escape of gambling, becomes addictive. Ultimately it can threaten relationships, disrupt work, damage values, create financial and legal problems and impact on moods.

Problem gambling can affect any woman. It affects as many women as men. Sometimes it is related to other life issues such as troubled relationships, a history of trauma, abuse, loss, mental health concerns or addiction to drugs or alcohol.

Problem gambling tends to be invisible. A woman struggling with urges to gamble, and the pain of losing control, may be secretive – silenced by shame, guilt and fear. She may feel isolated and overwhelmed by mounting financial, spiritual and emotional losses. She often lacks the support to make changes. Family and friends may be judgmental or rejecting.
Turning on the Lights

For years my friends and I played bingo every week. When I was laid off I started to play more often. The kids were grown and I was bored. My husband worried about the money and the changes in our relationship. It was hard to cut back, but with his help, and the support of my women’s group, I’m enjoying life without going crazy at bingo. – June

My whole family gambled. When I was young my mom took me to the track every day. My dad played poker with my uncles. I met my husband in Vegas. He went to jail for gambling related crimes… I went for help. I’m learning about balance, about being gentle but assertive, about honouring my needs and feelings, about self-respect. I feel so much more in control of my life and my future. – Fiona

I gave everything I had to be the perfect wife. Gambling was my only break. Eventually it broke me. I collapsed in exhaustion trying to keep the secret. It’s been a journey of discovery to share my struggles with others, to have someone to listen and care. – Suelyn

Women often nurture and care for others while neglecting their own needs. These women have found the support of a treatment program critical to re-establishing a healthy, balanced lifestyle that promotes a sense of well-being.
Some Problem Gambling Warning Signs
Do You…

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gamble more often, or with more money, than you intend?
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chase losses?
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neglect family, friends, self or work in order to gamble?
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gamble to escape worries or troubles?
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constantly think of gambling?
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hope for a “big win” to resolve financial or other problems?
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borrow money or juggle funds to gamble or pay debts?
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have conflicts with others over money or gambling?
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have mood swings because of your gambling, or experience anger, depression, suicidal thoughts or anxiety?
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continue to gamble despite negative consequences and efforts at control?

If you would like support to cut down, or to stop gambling, contact the Problem Gambling Service. Our services are free and confidential. Our women’s program aims to be accessible and responsive to the unique needs and concerns of women. We strive to maintain a climate of safety and respect.
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Individual counselling (in person or by phone)
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Group workshops
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Support and information in such areas as:
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Finances and credit counselling
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Relapse prevention
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Life enrichment . Rebuilding relationships
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Coping with stress
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Leisure and nutrition
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Self-esteem
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Dealing with guilt and shame.

We are funded by the Ontario Ministry of Health and Long-Term Care to offer help to all gamblers and/or family members who are concerned about gambling.

For more information please contact:

Problem Gambling Service

175 College Street
Toronto, Ontario M5T 1P7
Tel.: 416-599-1322
Toll-Free: 1-888-647-4414
Fax: 416-599-1324
E-mail: gambling@camh.net

For information on addiction and mental health issues or other resources, please contact the Centre for Addiction and Mental Health’s 24-hour Information Line:
Ontario toll-free: 1-800-463-6273
Toronto: 416-595-6111

To make a donation, please contact:
Centre for Addiction and Mental Health Foundation
Tel.: 416-979-6909
E-mail: foundation@camh.net
Web site: www.camh.net



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Problem Gambling Information & Services
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Problem Gambling Project
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Problem Gambling Service
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CAMH Publications
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Mental Health and Addiction 101 online tutorials

DISCLAIMER: Information on this site is not to be used for diagnosis, treatment or referral services and CAMH does not provide diagnostic, treatment or referral services through the Internet. Individuals should contact their personal physician, and/or their local addiction or mental health agency for further information.
Technical enquiries: webmaster@camh.net

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Women and Problem Gambling

Postby lindah » Sun Jul 13, 2008 3:05 am

With increased acceptance of gambling, and easy access to it, women have been swept into the gambling current. For some, the high of the action, or the escape of gambling, becomes addictive. Ultimately it can threaten relationships, disrupt work, damage values, create financial and legal problems and impact on moods.

Problem gambling can affect any woman. It affects as many women as men. Sometimes it is related to other life issues such as troubled relationships, a history of trauma, abuse, loss, mental health concerns or addiction to drugs or alcohol.

Problem gambling tends to be invisible. A woman struggling with urges to gamble, and the pain of losing control, may be secretive – silenced by shame, guilt and fear. She may feel isolated and overwhelmed by mounting financial, spiritual and emotional losses. She often lacks
the support to make changes. Family and friends may be judgmental or rejecting.

Too often women suffer alone, even when help is available.

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Women gambling

Postby lindah » Sat Aug 16, 2008 3:34 pm


It has been observed that women who gamble rarely do so for purely financial gain. Winning money is not the sole criteria for women; a lot of psychological factors propel women to try their hand at gambling. Thus women gamblers share a different profile from their male counterparts. With women, gambling is more a psychological solution for deep-seated emotional problems. Women gamble to escape stark reality and seek release in the social setting of the gambling milieu. However, in this process women may get hooked to serious gambling and encounter financial ruin.

From entertainment to addiction

There is a rising incidence of women gamblers initially attending gambling outlets for entertainment value and then falling into the trap of compulsive gambling. For, studies estimate, that the process of gambling from recreation to addiction is insidious. Women who view their gambling activity as harmless recreation often initially classify themselves as social gamblers. The gambling turns addictive at the stage when women begin gambling to recover losses incurred. This is the final stage when women find themselves mired in a financial loss mode.

Effects of gambling

When women fall into a debt trap because of imprudent gambling habits, women generally experience feelings of guilt and remorse. This ushers in a loss of self-worth and some women become seriously suicidal. Or alternatively, to counter monetary loss, women may become dangerously deranged substance abusers of either alcohol or drugs.


Lone gamblers

It has also been observed that women gamblers prefer “stand-alone” gambling as offered by slot machines, bingo, lotteries, and scratch tickets. This isolates them further and distinctively marks them for quicker negative self-assessments. Women gamblers should therefore exercise a higher degree of precaution when they find themselves tipping the monetary scales while gambling.

Seek help

One optimistic outcome of compulsive gambling by women is that women reach out for help and support programs to terminate their gambling activities. Women will seek professional help from gambling support groups, colleagues, and peers to effectively stop their risky gambling behavior. This is in sharp contrast to men who stay in the denial mode for a longer period of time. Women thus take more concrete steps to check their dangerous gambling habits. What this accomplishes is it forces women to acknowledge their addictive gambling habit and actively spurn this financially draining habit.

Gambling is a form of entertainment, sociable, and exciting for most of the women. Gambling does not interface the daily routine, relationships, or employment. They enjoy all kinds of recreation besides gambling, and their thoughts do not revolve around when they can gamble next or find more money. Women usually gamble funds that are not needed for food, shelter, or other necessities. They have a realistic view of their odds, although they hope to win, they also expect to lose. Women do not lie about gambling or winning neither money nor do they compulsively return to gambling to win back lost money, women are just social gamblers.

Some women have a very different relationship to gambling, a completely different view altogether. They go gambling as a means of escaping or avoiding people, circumstances, and emotions by developing a tunnel-like focus, blocking out everything but the game they are playing. They just lose awareness of time passing, money disappearing, and other people, while they are gambling. When such a woman is feeling sad or depressed, her mood will soar with the excitement of a win or near-win. When she is suffering from low self-esteem, she will equate winning with a sense of accomplishment or importance, such women are problem gamblers then.


Common reasons for women going gambling

Minimizing their loneliness, feeling that they would overcome

Escaping mentally and emotionally from the past or the current problems and the unresolved grief

Escaping physically from chronic pain or the health conditions

Major thing, winning money

Avoid conflict or abuse at home or at work

Relieve stress or tension in the other areas of life

Change in lifestyle such as retirement, divorce, or separation

Trauma caused such as a death or another loss

Just have fun in life


Gambling different for women

Women gamble for different reasons altogether different from men. Women about 70 percent go gambling to overcome several circumstances. Women usually play different games than men. Random games that are played alone and require little skill or knowledge. They may go for bingo, slot machines, lotteries, scratch tickets, pull-tabs, and raffles. The male problem gambler is typically outgoing, talkative, and gregarious. Men often seem self-assured and in control, while on the contrary women problem gambler is more of withdrawn, socially isolated, and suffering from extreme feeling of guilt, shame, and low self-worth.

Women gambling trends

It has been estimated that approximately half of compulsive gamblers are now women. This high participation of women in gambling has grown noticeably with the arrival of online gambling, the proliferation of casinos and electronic online gaming machines. Furthermore, there is no longer any stigma attached to women gambling in public venues. This has predictably given rise to the phenomenon of the habitual woman gambler. This feminization of gambling means a rising number of women gamblers are shedding their inhibitions to take part in "convenience gambling." This term refers to neighborhood casinos, pubs, and slot machines.

Psychological aspect

This upward trend in women gambling has been largely attributed to women seeking gambling as an exciting diversion from personal problems. For a majority of women gambling is a psychological escape route from negative mood disorders. Women view gambling as a convenient method of reasserting control over their lives. This psychological aspect of gambling for women makes it difficult for women to decisively break the gambling habit. Just a glance at the figures summarizes the huge shift in women's gambling habits. It is estimated that in the U.S. alone, women gamblers increased from a mere 22% in 1975 to a staggering 82% in 1998.

Face financial ruin

Addictive gambling by women has created a public policy crisis because women also tend to incur massive financial losses. It is equally difficult for women to recover from financial ruin, and they may still not be able to shed the gambling habit. This dangerous streak of gambling has given rise to a high percentage of women filing personal bankruptcy claims. The paradox is that studies indicate women rarely gamble for financial gain. In view of this central fact, women courting critical financial losses becomes an anomaly.

Women gamblers are increasing

There are efforts afoot to educate women to desist from risky gambling. However, what effects this "cease from gambling" campaign is having is difficult to gauge. With more gambling outlets, women are actually a very visible majority indulging in high stakes gambling. In fact, a disturbing trend that has emerged is that not only women under 45, but also women senior citizens are gambling in droves. How this upward trend can be stemmed or partially reversed is now a pertinent public issue that is being openly debated. In the meantime, women are betting in massive numbers



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